Writing a wedding speech can be a challenging prospect whether you are the groom, the father of the bride, or the best man. This can be something that is easily messed up if you don't remember the basics of good speechmaking. There are also some unique rules since these are speeches given as toast. Fortunately here are some simple easy to remember suggestions to help you out so you can give a great wedding speech and toast regardless of your relation to the bride.
Know what your topic is going to be. For the groom it is obvious going to be the bride. How you feel about her and what you like about her that made you fall in love with her. If you are the best man, you are the good friend congratulating the groom on finding the woman of his dreams. Of course you are going to add in some friendly jibes. The father of the bride is going to talk about the bride as his daughter growing up and moving on to the next stage of her life. There is also the obligatory threat to the groom to treat the bride like the princess that she is.
If you are nervous and can lose track of your thoughts easily read from a prepared text. You are not a professional lecturer so don't try to do it from memory if you don't have the skill to pull it off. Also don't bring a whole manuscript with you. Just have a small card with key points in your speech. One method is to have a flow chart to help you remember the order and flow of your speech.
Remember that it is a toast. So it will follow a general pattern. There will be thanking the audience and showing appreciation for the subject of the toast. This will include a short story or anecdote and then conclude with the official toast. As you can see it is quite simple and very hard to mess up after learning. The quality of the speech will depend on how well you can personalize and customize this structure to your own needs.
Choose short and simple stories and jokes for your toast. The groom should focus on how he met the bride and what made him fall in love with her. The best man should point out some great qualities about the groom and slightly embarrass him and praise the bride. The father of the bride should use the toast as an opportunity to reminisce about how fast his little girl has grown over the years. The goal is to be funny but be you. Don't try to be the greatest comic that ever lived. You will bomb and embarrass yourself. Keep it light and simple
Time is important. While this is your special day and your audience is captive due to the occasion don't overstay your welcome. Try to limit your toast to 3 to 4 minutes. You will actually be surprised by how much that you can say in such a short amount of time.
Practice is the most important thing to do. Practice makes permanent. So getting your speech right through consistent rehearsal will give you a workable version that you can rely on. Keep each of the tips mentioned in mind and don't be afraid to ask friends and family for advice when needed. - 30544
Know what your topic is going to be. For the groom it is obvious going to be the bride. How you feel about her and what you like about her that made you fall in love with her. If you are the best man, you are the good friend congratulating the groom on finding the woman of his dreams. Of course you are going to add in some friendly jibes. The father of the bride is going to talk about the bride as his daughter growing up and moving on to the next stage of her life. There is also the obligatory threat to the groom to treat the bride like the princess that she is.
If you are nervous and can lose track of your thoughts easily read from a prepared text. You are not a professional lecturer so don't try to do it from memory if you don't have the skill to pull it off. Also don't bring a whole manuscript with you. Just have a small card with key points in your speech. One method is to have a flow chart to help you remember the order and flow of your speech.
Remember that it is a toast. So it will follow a general pattern. There will be thanking the audience and showing appreciation for the subject of the toast. This will include a short story or anecdote and then conclude with the official toast. As you can see it is quite simple and very hard to mess up after learning. The quality of the speech will depend on how well you can personalize and customize this structure to your own needs.
Choose short and simple stories and jokes for your toast. The groom should focus on how he met the bride and what made him fall in love with her. The best man should point out some great qualities about the groom and slightly embarrass him and praise the bride. The father of the bride should use the toast as an opportunity to reminisce about how fast his little girl has grown over the years. The goal is to be funny but be you. Don't try to be the greatest comic that ever lived. You will bomb and embarrass yourself. Keep it light and simple
Time is important. While this is your special day and your audience is captive due to the occasion don't overstay your welcome. Try to limit your toast to 3 to 4 minutes. You will actually be surprised by how much that you can say in such a short amount of time.
Practice is the most important thing to do. Practice makes permanent. So getting your speech right through consistent rehearsal will give you a workable version that you can rely on. Keep each of the tips mentioned in mind and don't be afraid to ask friends and family for advice when needed. - 30544
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